Well, apparently Grandmothers should not talk about sex or so I've recently been told. It seems that in
my last blog post (ways to exercise that did not include going to the gym), I
may have crossed the line for some by mentioning the word sex as a form of
exercise.
For those of you that
did not see it, there was nothing pornographic about it, my comment simply
read, "Sex! Well, I don’t
think I need to explain or go into detail here, but if you have a partner, this
can certainly be great exercise and good for your relationship too ;)”
Most of my baby boomer posts have been about inexpensive ways to
look and feel our best while aging gracefully, and the feedback has been
positive. However, this time I was very surprised to get private messages
telling me that they were shocked or surprised that I would suggest having sex
as a form of exercise! (one actually said, "You are a Grandmother after
all!") Well, my Grand Daughter is 3 and doesn't read this blog, but that
is really beside the point!
Really?!? So Grandparents shouldn't have sex? Or should they just
pretend that they don't? Is it an age thing? Or is it a perception thing?
Now, maybe being married to an Ob-Gyn and being very comfortable
talking about things openly has clouded my view. Perhaps there is an age in
which the idea is taboo, is there a cutoff I didn't know about? Say 50? Maybe
it's 40? What about parents? Is it ok for them to have sex or is it just not ok
to mention it in any way?
(By the way, I wasn't asking anyone to "envision" this,
I simply suggested that sex can be a good form of exercise and I
still believe it can be, but I do apologize if I offended anyone, that was
never my intention.)
I have been married to the same man for 34 years and I stand by my
position that it is both good exercise, and makes for a very healthy relationship.
Now, I understand that as we age things change, perhaps the loss of a partner
which changes things, that is a different situation and someone
may choose to not pursue that avenue with someone else later in life.
However, it is important to point out that if there are health issues keeping
you from fully enjoying your sex life, you should talk to a doctor. Many of
these things can be addressed and age does not have to be the end of a healthy
and satisfying sex life.
Since I decided to go down this road again and address it, because,
frankly it was bothering me that I got such negative responses, I would like to
mention a great website and a great blog for anyone interested. There are lots
of great suggestions and information for those baby boomers that are still sexually
active, or want to be!
The first website is www.grandparents.com The family and relationships section has great information
and the website is a great resource for grandparents in general.
And the blog http://betterthanieverexpected.blogspot.com/ has been done beautifully by Joan Price, an author who has written
many books on the subject of sex and aging.
And here is a great article that talks about the health benefits of sex far better than I could ever pretend to.
http://articles.philly.com/2013-10-21/news/43222496_1_health-conference-maroon-5-betsy-crane
In all honesty, however, I’m not the least bit worried about
people loving other people; I’m far more concerned about all the hate in the
world today.
Hugs,
Linda Gomezwww.fullips.com
